Showing posts with label grateful. Show all posts
Showing posts with label grateful. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

A Tragic Accident and the Amazing Kindness of a Community




By Terry (Warren) Orr


This story took place 62 years ago - thanks to family members going through boxes of family belongings and researching the Internet we have been able to piece together our story.

Over sixty years ago my family was involved in a horrible vehicle accident killing two and injuring the other four passengers. This accident took place near a small rural town of Kincaid, Kansas. The nearest hospital was ‘New Allen County Hospital’ (which open earlier that year) in Iola, Kansas.

My Father recently turned 27, Mom was 26, I was 6, my sister 5, brother 3, and a baby brother was just one day shy of being two months old. We were returning home to Wichita from Kansas City after visiting our grandmother and to make final preparations for moving back there, as Dad has accepted a new position. 

Around 1:20pm, that afternoon on November 5, 1952 a 1940 Chevy pick up made a left-hand turn in front of us. Mom and the baby were killed instantly, my sister and father suffered serious injuries, while my brother and I suffered non-life threatening injuries.

On the following day after this accident, the Iola Register newspaper wrote two articles - first article was on page one, “Two Die in Crash at Kincaid” that described what had happen; and the second article found on page four titled "Preventable Tragedies" - which is provided below.

The Iola Register
Thursday, November 6, 1952
Page 4

Preventable Tragedies

The report in today's paper of the Kincaid accident, which cost two lives, indicated that the whole cause was poor eyesight on the part of one of the drivers.

If that is the case - how much longer is Kansas going to persist in a drivers' license law, which permits indefinite, automatic renewal without even the most cursory yearly physical examination?

It would cost quite a bit of money. But how much is a life worth - if it happens to be a member of your own family?

Curiously enough, there always seems to be considerable sympathy for any elderly man who involves himself in a wreck through his infirmities, even when that wreck mains or kills others.

"After all," they say, "the old man has to get around. He has to make a living, doesn't he?"

There are two answers to that.

The first is an unequivocal no. He doesn't have to get around and he doesn't have to make a living if his physical handicaps are so great that he can't do so without endangering the lives of others.  He can stay home and the state will take care of him. Or he can do something that doesn't require driving a car or truck.

The second is that an examination might turn a dangerous driver into a safe one by the simple expedient of requiring him to buy a pair of eyeglasses.

It is amazing the number of people who slide from good vision into bad so slowly that they don't realize the seriousness of the impairment that has taken place. This is especially true of near-sighed people who find their eyes good enough for everything they do with their hands but who have become so accustomed to a fuzzy distance vision that they jus think nothing about it.

Until they pull across the road in front of an approaching automobile they didn't see!

I suggest the legislature give this matter some mighty serious attention. A given number of strictly preventable tragedies will continue each month until it does.


While the author was not identified, this article is spot on and is as true today as it was 62 years ago.


On December 24, 1952, the Iola Register on page 1, published a Christmas card they received from our Grandmother, which read in part:

"We shall never forget the unusual kindness shown us following the death of our daughter-in-law and grandson, Mrs. W.C. Orr and infant, in an automobile accident near Kincaid," writes Mrs. Hodges, "nor the splendid treatment given her husband and their three children at the Allen County Hospital. May God Bless your wonderful town."

On January 1, 1953, The Register published an additional article related to our journey, “The Holloways Entertain at a Steak Dinner” from page one, that read:

A New Years Eve party and steak dinner was given last night at the home of Mr. and Mrs. Milt Holloway in Gas City for the tenants of their apartment house at 421 South Walnut in Iola.  Following the dinner David Holloway entertained the group with several vocal selections with Ruth Holloway at the piano.

Those present were Mrs. Pat Smith and her daughter Jeannie, Mrs. Eric Spicer, Miss Ida Perkins, Miss Ruby McCloud, Herschel Perry, Mrs. Mary Parkins and her sons Dickie and Allen all of Iola. Mr. and Mrs. Duane Canady and Sherry of Lawrence, Miss Margaret Tenny, and the three Orr children, Dwight, Lynn and Warren of LaCygne, who have been guest in the Holloway home for the past several days, and Mr. and Mrs. Holloway and their children Milton Jr., Elta Mae, Ruth, David and Steven.

Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Milton Holloway and family taking us in and making that evening very special.

Thank you Doctor Eugene Myers for taking such wonderful care of us.

Thank you each and every one of those exceptional individuals, families and communities for all that you did, offered to do and your love and support for our family.


With any event - there are always multiple perspectives, different memories, and certainly different facts and information that is processed uniquely to each person. This is my account of these events based upon: newspaper articles; passed along to me by my Father, Grandmothers, Aunt, and inputs from several immediate and extended family members.

We remain grateful, thankful, blessed and strengthen by the support, understanding, love and guidance given by so many.  To those generous people of Kansas – who provided so much during our recovery – words alone – simply can not expresses our thanks. For our Father – bless his soul, who gave us his best to keep us together and provide a solid foundation to grow upon. To Granny Greenwell who never shied away from anyone or anything to support and teaching us everything and more importantly doing the right thing and respecting others. To June who entered our lives at a critical juncture was truly a gift from above.


Thursday, November 22, 2012

Celebrating Thanksgiving Day 2012

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By Diane Forrest

Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays.  You get to visit with family, eat delicious food, and there is no stress about buying presents (that comes tomorrow!)  Today it’s just food, fun and football.
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One of the things I like to do at our Thanksgiving dinner is to go around the table, and ask people what they are thankful for.  Some years it is harder than others. Two years ago, it was very hard to be thankful when my husband had just passed away.  This year, it will be hard for my son's wife who lost her father, and her grandmother was diagnoses with cancer.  Even in the midst of tragedy, there is always something to be thankful for.  My son just started a new job on the 19th of this month, and even though he will be moving farther away, I am thankful that in this economy, that he has a good paying job.
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This has been a stressful year, with the presidential elections and debates, and television ads, and polls.  I am thankful that it is all over, and the country can get back to normal again.  I am thankful for my family, and my friends.  I have the best friends in the world, who are always there for me, listen to my problems, and keep me company during all the lonely times.   I am thankful for my dog, Snoopy.  He is always protecting me, letting me know if there is someone nearby, and never makes a mess.  I am thankful for all of you.  Writing on this blog not only keeps me busy and comforts me, but it also teaches me things about what is going on in the world today.
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So this year, go around your table and see what others are thankful for, even if it just being thankful for waking up this morning and smelling that fresh cooked turkey!
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Remember Our Troops



Encouraging others to remember our deployed troops is one of the most wide-reaching ways to support the active military during the holidays.

By reminding neighbors that our men and women overseas may need a boost of holiday cheer, you could touch hundreds of service members' lives this season. Talk to people, post on Facebook, send out Tweets or include a reminder in your holiday cards.

Although the holidays can be a difficult time for deployed service members and their families, there are countless ways you can show your gratitude and appreciation this season. Whether it’s a personalized message or a visit to a veteran, you can give back to those who give so much to our country.


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Thursday, September 13, 2012

Positive Thinking - 2012 Update



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By Terry Orr

Maintaining a positive thinking can be challenging for the best of us – each morning when I wake up, I am very thankful for another day and looking forward to what it brings.

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This would have been very handy forty-five years ago – Dawn Delvecchio at finerminds writes ‘Positive Thinking for Kids – 3 Great Tips for Teaching’:

1. Speak in Affirmatives
What’s the difference between “I don’t want to go to school” and “I want to stay home today”? Well, you might argue not a lot, and that what we’re talking about here is nothing less than wanting to ‘play hookie’ – whichever way you slice it. And you’d be right, practically speaking. But when it comes to positive thinking, the two statements are worlds apart. Here are a few other examples worth considering …

“I hate it when my homework takes too long,” or “I love it when I finish my homework with more time for fun!”
I don’t want to go out in the cold,” or “I’d like to stay inside and be warm.”
“I don’t like to play with Roger, he’s a jerk!” or “My favorite people to play with are Sam and Eddy and Jenny.”

2. Look on the Bright Side

S**t happens to all of us, but how you look at it – especially in front of kids – can make all the difference in the world. Here’s a great example – Kids spill things. Sometimes what they spill makes a heck of a mess. You’ve got a choice about how to look at it, no matter how much time it’s going to take to clean it up. You could either a). get pissed off, make a scene, shame the kid and then clean it up; b). fume a little bit, bite your tongue and clean it up; or c). think: “it could be worse, it could be a bottle of fish sauce!” Then smile and begin the clean-up.

3. Teach ‘em how to Rampage

Instead of letting kids go off on a rampage of anger or a crying fit; when they’re feeling calm and happy, teach them the appreciation game. You can use crayons, markers, pencils, words, stories or animated miming. Just pick a topic and go off on a rampage, thinking of every single thing you appreciate about that person, place, thing or experience. Make it fun and the kid will learn it for life!

What do you think?  Worthwhile finding out in your family?  Please let us know.
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The health benefits of positive thinking

According to Mayo Clinic, researchers continue to explore the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health. Health benefits that positive thinking may provide include:
  • Increased life span;
  • Lower rates of depression;
  • Lower levels of distress;
  • Greater resistance to the common cold;
  • Better psychological and physical well-being;
  • Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease; and
  • Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress.


It's unclear why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits.

There always seems to be someone out there who likes nothing more than to mess up our day – to wipe that smile off out face – but take it in stride, smile and do the best you can in that situation. Or like Jon Bon Jovi says in his song “...Have a nice day.”

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10 Tips to overcome negative thoughts: positive thinking made easy according to tiny Buddha:
  1. Meditate or do yoga
  2. Smile
  3. Surround yourself with positive people
  4. Change the tone of your thoughts from a negative to a positive
  5. Don’t play the victim.  You create your life – take responsibility
  6. Help someone
  7. Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward
  8. Sing
  9. List five things that you are grateful right now
  10. Read positive quotes.


One that is missing above is exercising – a lot of folks that I talk with and from books, articles and interviews – exercising helps reduce the stress and puts them into a positive frame of mind.
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Here are several tips on how to think positively from Success Consciousness:
  • Display a more positive emotional and mental attitude toward yourself, other people and situations.
  • Refuse to participate in negative inner dialogues. It's just a waste of time and energy.
  • Don't allow disappointments, difficulties and obstacles affect your moods and state of mind.
  • Refuse and reject negative thinking. Either replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts, or engage yourself in some activity that will divert your attention from the negative thoughts.
  • Don't allow what people think and say affect your mind and mood.
  • Associate with people who bring something of value into your life. Avoid people who sap your energy and enthusiasm. If you can't avoid them, learn how stay detached when you are in their company.
  • Say positive things about yourself and about other people.
  • Compliment people when you feel they deserve it.
  • Have faith in yourself and in your abilities.
  • Try doing new things or old things in a new way. Doing things differently will help you be more creative and therefore more positive. Go to a different restaurant, eat different food, change the way you dress, start reading a new book or find a new hobby.
  • Read about people who overcame hardships and succeeded in life. This will help you think more positively.
  • Set goals no matter how impossible this might seem at the moment and keep yourself busy working on them.
  • Each goal accomplished, no matter how small it might be, will bring you more confidence, self-esteem and positive thinking.
  • At least once a day, think and try to come up with more ideas on how to think positively in various situations.
  • Be careful what mental images you let in into your mind. How you see yourself and your surroundings make a difference to your thinking. It is like watching a video. Eject the old video cassette or CD and insert a new and better one instead.
  • Analyze your behavior and attitude, and ask yourself why you are repeating the habits or attitudes that you dislike. There is no need to follow old patterns of behavior that you don't like or don't make you any good.
  • When you learn how to think positively, you gain the key to changing and improving your life.


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So put on that happy face, be thankful for what you have and go out there and enjoy your day.

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