Showing posts with label ADD. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ADD. Show all posts

Monday, November 3, 2014

It’s Hard to Love Someone with ADD


By Terry Orr

It’s a fact; a person with ADD is hard to love. You never know what to say. It’s like walking through a minefield. You tiptoe around; unsure which step (or word) will be the one that sets off an explosion of emotion. It’s something you try to avoid. ~ June Silny


“20 Things to Remember If You Love a Person with ADD”

  1. They have an active mind
  2. They listen but don’t absorb what is being said
  3. They have difficulty staying on task
  4. They become anxious easily
  5. They can’t concentrate when they are emotional
  6. They concentrate too intensely
  7. They have difficulty stopping a task when they are in the zone
  8. They are unable to regulate their emotions
  9. They have verbal outburst
  10. They have social anxiety
  11. They are deeply intuitive
  12. They think out of the box
  13. They are impatient and fidgety
  14. They are physically sensitive
  15. They are disorganized
  16. They need space to pace
  17. They avoid tasks
  18. They can’t remember simple tasks
  19. They have many tasks going on at the same time
  20. They are passionate about everything the do

“12 Reasons Why You Should Love Having ADD”

  1. You see what others don’t see, you see more
  2. You’re a champion multi-tasker
  3. You’re philosophically deeper than most people
  4. You are an … artist, an actor, a writer, marketing expert, chef, Wall Street trader, a musician, or filmmaker
  5. When you find something you love, you do it with passion
  6. Change doesn’t scare you
  7. You’re an out-of-the-box thinker
  8. Your awesome sense of humor keeps you optimistic
  9. You are resilient
  10. You work great under pressure
  11. You have a photographic memory
  12. You are compassionate empathetic, and totally lovable

Who said it’s so terrible to have ADD?

Isn’t it time to start loving your special gifts? Admit it, you’re fabulous!


Thank you June for your words of wisdom!

So you were wondering who were and are some of these people whom had/have ADD/ADHD? Here is a list of some you might know something about.




Socrates, Orville and Wilbur Wright, Steven Spielberg, Henry David Thoreau, Edgar Allen Poe, Nolan Ryan, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Whoopi Goldberg, Ernest Hemingway, Dustin Hoffman, Abraham Lincoln, Galileo, William Randolph Hearst, George Bernard Shaw, Ann Bancroft, Nostradamus, John D. Rockafeller, Napoleon, General George Patton, Pablo Picasso, Babe Ruth, Harry Belafonte, George Burns, Andrew Carnegie, Salvador Dali, Dwight D. Eisenhower, William Butler Yeats, Prince Charles, Louis Carroll, Eleanor Roosevelt, Louis Pasteur, Terry Bradshaw, Richard Branson, Glenn Beck, Jim Carrey, Ryan Gosling, Woody Harrelson, Paris Hilton, Adam Levine, Howie Mandel, Ty Pennington, Michael Phelps, Pete Rose, Michele Rodriguez, Will Smith, Justin Timeberlake, Robin Williams, Emma Watson, Bill Gates, Eva Longoria, Steven Tyler, Bill Cosby, Michael Jordan, John Lennon, Liv Tyler, Jack Nicholson, Leonardo da Vinci, Henry Ford, Walt Disney, Woodrow Wilson, John F. Kennedy, Alexander Graham  Bell, Thomas Edison, Magic Johnson, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, Steve McQueen, Alfred Hitchcock, Babe Ruth, Louis Pasteur, and me.

The last four links are to previous article on ADD/ADHD posted on the Blog site.

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Sunday, October 14, 2012

ADHD Awareness Week


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By Terry Orr
(ADDer)

Embracing and finding your unique and special niche in life with ADHD is life changing and special moments that you will never forget.  Shedding that anchor of others ‘idea what is normal’ and learning what is normal for you.  My moment was sitting in Ann Marie’s office (shrink) – imagine fireworks, laser light show, orgasmic and feeling like you have just lost a ton of weight off your shoulders.  Yep!  That was my moment.  Now, let’s work together to help you and others fine their moment.

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Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is -
  • The many faces of ADHD - reflects the growing awareness of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, a neurological disorder that is not confined to any one age group or ethnicity. [adhdawarenessweek]
  • Ruth Hughes, CEO of CHADD (Children & Adults with ADHD) referred to current research, saying that “ADHD has many faces.  It affects people of all ethnic backgrounds and all socioeconomic classes and is most often an inherited disorder.  Families can often identify ADHD symptoms in several generations.  Other environmental factors include premature birth, prenatal exposure to toxins such as smoking, drugs or alcohol, and other traumas to the brain.”


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ADHD Awareness Week site provides a wealth of excellent information on this subject and The Many Faces of ADHD Fact Sheets you can download and print – here are some of the titles available:
  • ADHD in Teens
  • ADHD in Women
  • ADHD in Adults
  • Parenting Children with ADHD
  • Prevalence of ADHD in US


Also available is 7 Facts you Need to Know about ADHD:
  1. ADHD is Real;
  2. ADHD is a Common Non-Discriminatory Disorder;
  3. Diagnosing ADHD is a Complex Process;
  4. Other Mental Health Conditions Frequently Co-Occur with ADHD;
  5. ADHD is Not Benign;
  6. ADHD is Nobody’s Fault; and
  7. ADHD Treatment is Multi-Faceted.

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We are leaning more factual, concrete information regarding ADD/ADHD every day and the more information being shared around the world is helping all of us to better understand, harness this special gift and focus on what is really important in our lives.  One of those is using my smartphone to remind me what and or where I need to be or doing.  Writing down notes from conversations with others to assessment in remembering where, what, when and any actions the they or I need to take.  Oh, and no – I don’t remember to do that all the time – but making progress in doing that more often.

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Monday, September 17, 2012

Joys of living with ADHD


Accentuating the Positive


By Terry Orr
(ADD/ADHD-er)
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Multi-tasking at its best, once you learn how to harness the power of Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)/ Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) – I have rarely considered this a negative in my life (I see the glass half full).  In fact, just the opposite – because most folks simply are unable to do what ADD/ADHD folks can do.  So let’s take closer look into these special abilities.
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Last September we covered ADHD from a clinical and non-clinical perspective:
  • Symptoms;
  • Signs and Test;
  • Treatment;
  • Medications;
  • Behavior Therapy; and
  • Some well-known people who are ADD/ADHD.


10 Most Positive Things about ADHD (by Bryan L. Hutchinson). In my research for this article I was thrilled to find Bryan's Web/Blog site (www.adderworld.com) “Positive Thinking of ADHD” chucked full of good information on ADD/ADHD.  A summary of these ten are provided below, you can download the complete package at Bryan's site:

  • Passion: Passion is energy, it is enthusiasm and it is intuitiveness.  Passion is life, it is ever constant.
  • Creativity: Creativity is found in all people, not just those of us with ADHD; however, it does seem that people with ADHD have a way of thinking which makes what we create stand out as unique and distinctive.
  • Dynamic: I believe people with ADHD are dynamic by nature. Dynamic people vibrate with energy and exude a kind of poise, which is too often misinterpreted.
  • Resilient: We have had to be in order to keep on, keeping on!
  • Playful: One of our most charming qualities is our playfulness.
  • Entertaining: I personally believe that most all entertainers are ADDers! We are natural born entertainers.  It’s not an art form for us, it’s a way of life.
  • Overachiever: One of our most underrated, least talked about traits is our desire to achieve, to do well and live a successful life.  Too many think we live by an excuse for our behavior and are unwilling to strive. The fact is: we are constantly striving!
  • Imagination: If there is one thing I love about my ADHD mind above all others, it is my vivid imagination. When I dream it is like watching a movie in my head, with the intricate sounds, vibrant colors and ever so subtle movements.
  • Hyper-Focus: I like to think of my hyper focus as my personal super power, which gives me tremendous advantages when I have it under my control.
  • Positivity: Is a trait of ADHD?  Perhaps not officially.  It is for me, finally! {This has been for me as long as I can remember}

Bryan also has published three books (which I purchased over the weekend and downloaded on my iPad):
  • One Boy's Struggle: A Memoir: Surviving Life with Undiagnosed ADD;
  • The Brilliant Reality of ADHD; and
  • Adult ADHD Can Be Sexy!
And has a fourth book in the works, “10 Things I Hate about ADHD”.
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In our recent post Positive Thinking (link) is an update to last year’s very successful article (link) on that same topic we shared information on the importance of being positive in every part of your life.   These are a nice Segway into - 


The Positive Characteristics of ADD / ADHD

People with ADD / ADHD also have many positive traits that are directly tied to their active, impulsive minds:


  • CreativityPeople with ADD excel at thinking outside of the box, brainstorming, and finding creative solutions to problems. Because of their flexible way of thinking about things, they tend to be more open-minded, independent, and ready to improvise.
  • Enthusiasm and spontaneityPeople with ADD are free spirits with lively minds—qualities that makes for good company and engrossing conversation. Their enthusiasm and spontaneous approach to life can be infectious.
  • A quick mind - People with ADD have the ability to think on their feet, quickly absorb new information (as long as it’s interesting), and multitask with ease. Their rapid-fire minds thrive on stimulation. They adapt well to change and are great in a crisis.
  • High energy levelPeople with ADD have loads of energy. When their attention is captured by something that interests them, they can have virtually unlimited stamina and drive.

Famous People with ADHD

Bill Cosby
Jim Carey
Whoopi Goldberg
Will Smith
Paris Hilton
Vincent Van Gogh
Orville & Wilber Wright
Benjamin Franklin
Thomas Edison
Abraham Lincoln
John F. Kennedy (father and son both)
Walt Disney
Samuel Clemens
Emily Dickenson
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Positive Characteristics of People with Attention Deficit Disorder:
Ability to find alternate paths to overcome obstacles; Able to take on large situations; Adaptive/collaborative; Adventurous, courageous, lives outside of boundaries; Always finding alternate routes to any given location; Always willing to help others; Ambitious – you want to be everything when “you grow up”; Artistic; Attractive personality – magnetic due to high energy; Being able to see the big picture; Being able to see the patterns in the chaos; Being intuitive towards others’ difficulties; Broad focus – can see more, notice things more; Can create order from chaos; Can do many projects at once; Can make people feel they are heard; Can see the big picture; Can talk about several things at one time; Can think on my feet; Career variety; Centre of attention; Comfortable talking in front of groups; Comfortable with change and chaos; Compassion for others and for themselves; Conceptualizes well; Confidence; Constantly evolving; Courageous; Creates connections easily; Creative; Creative writing; Creative – musical, artistic, “dramatic”; Down to Earth; Good in a crisis; Good at customer relations; Dedicated; Detail-oriented; Determined to gain more control; Eager to make friends; Eager to try new things; Empathetic, sensitive; Energetic; Entrepreneurial; Excellent organizers using journals and reminders (notes etc.); Flexible – changes as the situation requires; Fun guy to be around; Goal-oriented; Good at conceptualizing; Good at motivating self and others; Good at multitasking; Good at problem solving; Good at public speaking; Good at understanding others/mind reading – empathetic; Good conversationalist; Good delegator and good at organizing others; Good in emergency situations; Good listener; Good looking and aware of it; Good people skills; Good self-esteem, energetic; Great brain-stormer; Great multi-tasker; Great self-company; Great sense of humor; Great storyteller; Great with kids (central figure around kids); Hands-on workers; Hard worker; Has friendly relations with their family; Has the gift of gab; Helpful; Helps others who are also in trouble; High energy – go, go, go; Humor, very healthy, quick picking up ideas; Hyper focus !!; Hypersensitive – very empathetic and good at non-verbal communications; Idea generator; Imaginative; Impulsive (in a good way) not afraid to act; Initiators; Intelligent; Intuitive; It’s ok to not finish everything; Learning as much as I can to help children and others with ADHD; Less sleep is good (midnight to 6 am); Like to talk a lot; Likes learning new things; Look at multidimensional sides to a situation; Lots of interests; Loves to cook and be creative; Magnetic; Master idea generator; Mentoring others/helpful; Mentoring people with low self-esteem; Modesty; Move on fast – never hold a grudge; Multitasks well; Never bored and rarely boring; Never intimidated to try new things; Non-linear, multi-dimensional/edge of chaos; Not afraid to speak mind; Not contained by boundaries; On stage and ready; Optimistic; Outgoing; Passionate; Persistent; Philosophical; Holistic thinking; Playful; Pragmatic; Problem solver; Profound; Quick thinking; Quick witted; Relates to people easily; Resistant; Resourceful; Saves money in the short term by forgetting to file tax returns; See and remember details – recount them later; Sees the big picture; Socially adaptive and flexible; Spontaneous; Stabilizer during difficult situations; Stable; Successful; Takes initiative; Tenacious; Theoretical; Think outside the box; Thinks two meters ahead of the world; Thinks big, dreams big; Thorough; Tolerant; Trusting, Unconventional; Unlimited energy; Unorthodox; Versatile; Very creative, able to generate a lot of ideas; Very hard working to compensate – workaholic; Very intuitive; Very resourceful; Very successful; Visionary; Visual learner; Willing to explore; Willing to take risks; Willingness to help others; Witty; Won’t tolerate boredom; Works well under pressure; and Worldly.

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Whew!  That’s quite a list of Positive Characteristics and surprisingly is spot on for me in all but four.  How many of them accurately depict your characteristics?


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Sunday, September 18, 2011

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) Awareness



Clinical Perspective


What is ADHD? 
ADHD is a problem with inattentiveness, over-activity, impulsivity, or a combination. For these problems to be diagnosed as ADHD, they must be out of the normal range for a child's age and development.

Causes, incidence, and risk factors

ADHD is the most commonly diagnosed behavioral disorder of childhood. It affects about 3 - 5% of school aged children. ADHD is diagnosed much more often in boys than in girls.

ADHD may run in families, but it is not clear exactly what causes it. Whatever the cause may be, it seems to be set in motion early in life as the brain is developing. Imaging studies suggest that the brains of children with ADHD are different from those of other children.

Depression, lack of sleep, learning disabilities, tic disorders, and behavior problems may be confused with, or appear with, ADHD. Every child suspected of having ADHD should be carefully examined by a doctor to rule out possible other conditions or reasons for the behavior.

Most children with ADHD also have at least one other developmental or behavioral problem. They may also have a psychiatric problem, such as depression or bipolar disorder.

Symptoms
The symptoms of ADHD fall into three groups:
  • Lack of attention (inattentiveness)
  • Hyperactivity
  • Impulsive behavior (impulsivity)

Some children with ADHD primarily have the inattentive type. Others may have a combination of types. Those with the inattentive type are less disruptive and are more likely to not be diagnosed with ADHD.

Inattentive symptoms
  • Fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork
  • Has difficulty keeping attention during tasks or play
  • Does not seem to listen when spoken to directly
  • Does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace
  • Has difficulty organizing tasks and activities
  • Avoids or dislikes tasks that require sustained mental effort (such as schoolwork)
  • Often loses toys, assignments, pencils, books, or tools needed for tasks or activities
  • Is easily distracted
  • Is often forgetful in daily activities

Hyperactivity symptoms:
  • Fidgets with hands or feet or squirms in seat
  • Leaves seat when remaining seated is expected
  • Runs about or climbs in inappropriate situations
  • Has difficulty playing quietly
  • Is often "on the go," acts as if "driven by a motor," talks excessively

Impulsivity symptoms:
  • Blurts out answers before questions have been completed
  • Has difficulty awaiting turn
  • Interrupts or intrudes on others (butts into conversations or games)

Signs and tests
Too often, difficult children are incorrectly labeled with ADHD. On the other hand, many children who do have ADHD remain undiagnosed. In either case, related learning disabilities or mood problems are often missed. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has issued guidelines to bring more clarity to this issue.
  • The diagnosis is based on very specific symptoms, which must be present in more than one setting.
  • Children should have at least 6 attention symptoms or 6 hyperactivity/impulsivity symptoms, with some symptoms present before age 7.
  • The symptoms must be present for at least 6 months, seen in two or more settings, and not caused by another problem.
  • The symptoms must be severe enough to cause significant difficulties in many settings, including home, school, and in relationships with peers.
  • In older children, ADHD is in partial remission when they still have symptoms but no longer meet the full definition of the disorder.

The child should have an evaluation by a doctor if ADHD is suspected. Evaluation may include:
  • Parent and teacher questionnaires (for example, Connors, Burks)
  • Psychological evaluation of the child AND family, including IQ testing and psychological testing
  • Complete developmental, mental, nutritional, physical, and psychosocial examination

Treatment
Treating ADHD is a partnership between the health care provider, parents or caregivers, and the child. For therapy to succeed, it is important to:
  • Set specific, appropriate target goals to guide therapy.
  • Start medication and behavior therapy.
  • Follow-up regularly with the doctor to check on goals, results, and any side effects of medications. During these check-ups, information should be gathered from parents, teachers, and the child.

If treatment does not appear to work, the health care provider should:
  • Make sure the child indeed has ADHD
  • Check for other, possible medical conditions that can cause similiar symptoms
  • Make sure the treatment plan is being followed

MEDICATIONS
A combination of medication and behavioral treatment works best. There are several different types of ADHD medications that may be used alone or in combination.

Psychostimulants (also known as stimulants) are the most commonly used ADHD drugs. Although these drugs are called stimulants, they actually have a calming effect on people with ADHD.

These drugs include:
  • Amphetamine-dextroamphetamine (Adderall)
  • Dexmethylphenidate (Focalin)
  • Dextroamphetamine (Dexedrine, Dextrostat)
  • Lisdexamfetamine (Vyvanse)
  • Methylphenidate (Ritalin, Concerta, Metadate, Daytrana)
  • A nonstimulant drug called atomoxetine (Strattera) may work as well as stimulants, and may be less likely to be misused.
  • Some ADHD medicines have been linked to rare sudden death in children with heart problems. Talk to your doctor about which drug is best for your child.

BEHAVIOR THERAPY
  • Talk therapy for both the child and family can help everyone understand and gain control of the stressful feelings related to ADHD.
  • Parents should use a system of rewards and consequences to help guide their child's behavior. It is important to learn to handle disruptive behaviors. Support groups can help you connect with others who have similar problems.

Other tips to help your child with ADHD include:
  • Communicate regularly with the child's teacher.
  • Keep a consistent daily schedule, including regular times for homework, meals, and outdoor activities. Make changes to the schedule in advance and not at the last moment.
  • Limit distractions in the child's environment.
  • Make sure the child gets a healthy, varied diet, with plenty of fiber and basic nutrients.
  • Make sure the child gets enough sleep.
  • Praise and reward good behavior.
  • Provide clear and consistent rules for the child.
  • Alternative treatments for ADHD have become popular, including herbs, supplements, and chiropractic treatments. However, there is little or no solid evidence that these work.
  • Expectations (prognosis)
  • ADHD is a long-term, chronic condition. If it is not treated appropriately, ADHD may lead to:
  • Drug and alcohol abuse
  • Failure in school
  • Problems keeping a job
  • Trouble with the law
  • About half of children with ADHD will continue to have troublesome symptoms of inattention or impulsivity as adults. However, adults are often more capable of controlling behavior and masking difficulties.
  • Calling your health care provider

Call your doctor if you or your child's school personnel suspect ADHD. You should also tell your doctor about any:
  • Difficulties at home, school, and in relationships with peers
  • Medication side effects
  • Signs of depression

Prevention

Although there is no proven way to prevent ADHD, early identification and treatment can prevent many of the problems associated with ADHD.

Non-Clinical Perspective

From a person who is ADD/ADHD - learning about the subject is essential and to embrace  those attributes as a positive trait are key to successfully living a normal life. I have siblings, cousins, children and grandchildren who are ADD/ADHD and most have learned to accept and enjoy their uniqueness.  I personally consider it a blessing - a gift that makes me unique from others.

Learning when your peaks and valley are; be it writing, sleeping, or working with others are all important piece to your 'puzzle of life'.  I know when my peak times for creativity, writing, working well with others, when multitasking was easy or hard to accomplished (although, the majority of the time I was able to do so, regardless of effort required). It is not fool proof, but a nice guide to help me throughout the day.

By celebrating your small feats, you will be able to tackle bigger challenges.  The world’s appreciation of ADD depends on your feeling good about yourself, so tell your friends, family—even the bagger at your local grocery store—all about your condition, especially if they know little about it.

Talk with Your Friends

Your friends may be your best support network. True friends won’t sweat your arriving 10 minutes late; they will accept your flaws—or not notice them—because they appreciate your personality, values, and world view. They can see the big picture.
Besides lending their advice and help, your friends celebrate your success because they know the challenges you had to overcome to achieve it. When you’re out having dinner with friends, tell them about how you found your car in the parking lot in under a half hour, and, at the same time, thought of a software program, algorithm and all, to find it even quicker next time.


A few years ago, along with another ADD friend, we attended weekly meetings with others and how the deal with their gift - some of them really needed professional help.  And that brings up anther interesting topic, finding qualified and good help - I was lucky to find such a person. I also believe their was someone up above helping as shortly after getting this help, we discovered that my Dad had Renal Cell Cancer.

Some well know people who are ADD/ADHD are:


Other famous people with ADHD: Albert Einstein, Leonardo Da Vinci, Michal Jordan, Ty Pennington, Elvis Presley, Robin Williams, and Will smith all have it! and this is only a few! there are a lot more!

Internet Links with good information on ADD/ADHD:

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