It’s Hard to Love Someone with ADD

By Terry Orr

It’s a fact; a person with ADD is hard to love. You never know what to say. It’s like walking through a minefield. You tiptoe around; unsure which step (or word) will be the one that sets off an explosion of emotion. It’s something you try to avoid. ~ June Silny

“20 Things to Remember If You Love a Person with ADD”

1. They have an active mind
2. They listen but don’t absorb what is being said
3. They have difficulty staying on task
4. They become anxious easily
5. They can’t concentrate when they are emotional
6. They concentrate too intensely
7. They have difficulty stopping a task when they are in the zone
8. They are unable to regulate their emotions
9. They have verbal outburst
10. They have social anxiety
11. They are deeply intuitive
12. They think out of the box
13. They are impatient and fidgety
14. They are physically sensitive
15. They are disorganized
16. They need space to pace
17. They avoid tasks
18. They can’t remember simple tasks
19. They have many tasks going on at the same time
20. They are passionate about everything the do

“12 Reasons Why You Should Love Having ADD”

1. You see what others don’t see, you see more
2. You’re a champion multi-tasker
3. You’re philosophically deeper than most people
4. You are an … artist, an actor, a writer, marketing expert, chef, Wall Street trader, a musician, or filmmaker
5. When you find something you love, you do it with passion
6. Change doesn’t scare you
7. You’re an out-of-the-box thinker
8. Your awesome sense of humor keeps you optimistic
9. You are resilient
10. You work great under pressure
11. You have a photographic memory
12. You are compassionate empathetic, and totally lovable

Who said it’s so terrible to have ADD?

Isn’t it time to start loving your special gifts? Admit it, you’re fabulous!

Thank you June for your words of wisdom!

So you were wondering who were and are some of these people whom had/have ADD/ADHD? Here is a list of some you might know something about.

Socrates, Orville and Wilbur Wright, Steven Spielberg, Henry David Thoreau, Edgar Allen Poe, Nolan Ryan, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Whoopi Goldberg, Ernest Hemingway, Dustin Hoffman, Abraham Lincoln, Galileo, William Randolph Hearst, George Bernard Shaw, Ann Bancroft, Nostradamus, John D. Rockafeller, Napoleon, General George Patton, Pablo Picasso, Babe Ruth, Harry Belafonte, George Burns, Andrew Carnegie, Salvador Dali, Dwight D. Eisenhower, William Butler Yeats, Prince Charles, Louis Carroll, Eleanor Roosevelt, Louis Pasteur, Terry Bradshaw, Richard Branson, Glenn Beck, Jim Carrey, Ryan Gosling, Woody Harrelson, Paris Hilton, Adam Levine, Howie Mandel, Ty Pennington, Michael Phelps, Pete Rose, Michele Rodriguez, Will Smith, Justin Timeberlake, Robin Williams, Emma Watson, Bill Gates, Eva Longoria, Steven Tyler, Bill Cosby, Michael Jordan, John Lennon, Liv Tyler, Jack Nicholson, Leonardo da Vinci, Henry Ford, Walt Disney, Woodrow Wilson, John F. Kennedy, Alexander Graham  Bell, Thomas Edison, Magic Johnson, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, Steve McQueen, Alfred Hitchcock, Babe Ruth, Louis Pasteur, and me.

The last four links are to previous article on ADD/ADHD posted on the Blog site.

Links:

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/20-things-remember-you-love-person-with-add.html

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/featured/12-reasons-why-you-should-love-having-add.html

http://kisbyto.blogspot.com/2011/03/dreading-report-card-day.html

http://kisbyto.blogspot.com/2011/09/attention-deficit-hyperactivity.html

http://kisbyto.blogspot.com/2012/09/joys-of-living-with-adhd.html

http://kisbyto.blogspot.com/2012/10/adhd-awareness-week.html

National Massage Therapy Awareness Week October 20-26, 2013

By Terry Orr

Let us all join in celebrating the 17^th National Massage Therapy Week by doing something special for someone and ourselves by getting an appointment for a well deserved massage!

Last October, we provided a quick guide to the most popular types of massage therapy to help you figure out which massage therapy style is right for you (http://kisbyto.blogspot.com/ 2012/10/national-massage-therapy-week.html).

What are the benefits of massage therapy?  Let us explore some of the benefits of a good massage.

BENEFITS OF REGULAR MASSAGES

Physical Benefits:

• Relaxes the body;
• Reduces tension headaches;
• Lowers blood pressure;
• Increases and promotes joint flexibility;
• Relieves tired and aching muscles;
• Increases circulation;
• Reduce spasms and cramping; and
• Improves posture and balance and so much more.

Mental Benefits:

• Reduces mental stress;
• Promotes quality sleep;
• Improves mood, intellectual reasoning and productivity;
• Induces mental relaxation; and
• Improved concentration.

Emotional Benefits:

• Reduces anxiety;
• Enhances self-image;
• Provides a feeling of well being; and
• Nurtures and stimulates emotional growth.

REFERENCES AND LINKS:

http://balancedbeingtherapies.com

http://www.massageenvy.com/benefits-of-massage-therapy.aspx

http://www.massagetherapy.com/learnmore/benefits.php

SOCIAL WELLNESS

By Terry Orr

“Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.” ~World Health Organization, 1948

“Wellness is the conscious and deliberate process by which people are actively involved in enhancing their well-being: intellectual, physical, social, emotional, occupational and spiritual” ~ Hatfield

Social Wellness (family, community and environment) – focuses on how you choose to define and connect with your community and the people around you. 

Physical –your body's health, which involves nutrition, exercise, promoting over-all safety and wellness, and preventing physical illness.

Spiritual (values and ethics) – to understanding your place and purpose, how you make meaning of what happens to you, and what your mind goes to for comfort and relief.

Intellectual – means feeling stimulated and engaged with learning and staying open to new ideas and perspectives.

Emotional – involves being aware of and managing your feelings, being at peace with who you are, and having the tools you need to weather life’s ups and downs.

Occupational – is the work you choose to do and how you feel it contributes to your community and fulfills you.

According to Work Smart. Life Smart –

July is Social Wellness Month and it reminds us that we need to reach out to others and build stronger social ties with family and friends. Social Wellness encourages us to develop better communications with those around us including the ability to share our feelings and needs. It involves respecting yourself and others and developing a solid social support system.

Social Wellness takes planning and effort to carve out time for those activities, as they may not happen naturally in today’s hectic world. We know from our research that socially isolated people are more susceptible to illness and have a death rate two to three times higher than those who are not socially isolated.  However people who maintain their social network and support systems do better under stress and are physically and mentally healthier.  They even achieve higher grade point averages.

So how important in Social Wellness in our daily life – one indication is the explosion of social media over the past decade.  According to eBizMBA the three top Social Media Sites (Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn) average about 1.1 Billion visits each month – that is nearly one in seven people globally.  Folks reaching out to others – finding common ground – communicating – sharing – building relationships – a virtual family/home.

What we are all looking for – is balance in our lives – while sounding fairly straight forward – with our daily lives, most folks deal with the ever increasing demands on their time – and finding true balance is all to often is simply not possible.  The challenge is to prioritizes things best we can – and review what really and truly are the important things in our lives.

References and Links:

http://worksmartlivesmart.com/social-wellness-month-july/

http://www.ebizmba.com/articles/social-networking-websites 

(Photos from Google)

National Child Abuse Prevention Month

By Terry Orr

What is Child Abuse?

Child abuse is the physical, sexual or emotional mistreatment or neglect of a child or children. In the United States, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the Department for Children And Families (DCF) define child maltreatment as any act or series of acts of commission or omission by a parent or other caregiver that results in harm, potential for harm, or threat of harm to a child. Child abuse can occur in a child's home, or in the organizations, schools or communities the child interacts with. There are four major categories of child abuse: neglect, physical abuse, psychological or emotional abuse, and sexual abuse.

Different jurisdictions have developed their own definitions of what constitutes child abuse for the purposes of removing a child from his/her family and/or prosecuting a criminal charge. According to the Journal of Child Abuse and Neglect, child abuse is "any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker which results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation, an act or failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm." (Source: Wikipedia)

Child Abuse Types (can take several forms – but the four main types are):

1. Physical - physical aggression directed at a child by an adult.
2. Sexual - is a form of child abuse in which an adult or older adolescent abuses a child for sexual stimulation.
3. Psychological/Emotional - is defined as the production of psychological and social deficits in the growth of a child as a result of behavior such as loud yelling, coarse and rude attitude, inattention, harsh criticism, and denigration of the child's personality.
4. Neglect - is the failure of a parent or other person with responsibility for the child to provide needed food, clothing, shelter, medical care, or supervision to the degree that the child's health, safety, and well-being are threatened with harm.

10 Ways to Prevent Child Abuse:

1. BE A NURTURING PARENT Children need to know that they are special, loved, and capable of following their dreams.
2. HELP A FRIEND, NEIGHBOR, OR RELATIVE Being a parent isn't always easy. Offer a helping hand - take care of the kids so the parents can rest or spend time together.
3. HELP YOURSELF When big or little problems pile up and you feel overwhelmed or out of control, take a time out. Don’t take it out on your kids.
4. IF YOUR BABY CRIES It can be frustrating hearing your baby cry. Learn what to do if your baby won’t stop crying. Never shake a baby - shaking can result in severe injuries or death.
5. GET INVOLVED Ask your local community leaders, clergy, library and schools to develop services to meet the needs of healthy children and families.
6. HELP TO DEVELOP PARENTING RESOURCES IN YOUR COMMUNUTY See about organizing a Parent Resource Center or be sure families know about the parent helpline at 1-800-FLA-LOVE.
7. PROMOTE PROGRAMS IN SCHOOLS Teaching children, parents and teachers prevention strategies can help keep children safe.
8. http://www.cmskids.com/families/child_protection_safety/documents/10_Ways_to_Prevent_Child_Abuse.pdfWatching violent films, TV programs, and video games can harm young children.
9. VOLUNTEER AT A LOCAL CHILD ABUSE PREVENTION PROGRAM For information on volunteer opportunities, call 1-800-CHILDREN.
10. REPORT SUSPECTED CHILD ABUSE OR NEGLECT If you have a reason to think a child has been or may be harmed, call and make a report: 1-800- 96-ABUSE. (Source: Child Medical Services)

“The 2013 Resource Guide for Preventing Child Maltreatment and Promoting Well-Being: A Network for Action” is available for review and download at http://www.carescac.org/april-is-child-abuse-prevention-month/1201/.

They are many good resources available to parents, caregivers, friends, family members and communities to assist in preventing Child Abuse – all it takes is being Proactive – and doing something to help a child! As Nike states – Just Do It!

References and Links:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_abuse

http://www.childabusecouncil.org/what-is-child-abuse.html

http://www.carescac.org/april-is-child-abuse-prevention-month/1201/

http://www.childrensadvocacycenter.org/article_20WaysToPreventChildAbuse.cfm

http://www.cms-kids.com/families/child_protection_safety/documents/10_Ways_to_Prevent_Child_Abuse.pdf