It’s Hard to Love Someone with ADD

By Terry Orr

It’s a fact; a person with ADD is hard to love. You never know what to say. It’s like walking through a minefield. You tiptoe around; unsure which step (or word) will be the one that sets off an explosion of emotion. It’s something you try to avoid. ~ June Silny

“20 Things to Remember If You Love a Person with ADD”

1. They have an active mind
2. They listen but don’t absorb what is being said
3. They have difficulty staying on task
4. They become anxious easily
5. They can’t concentrate when they are emotional
6. They concentrate too intensely
7. They have difficulty stopping a task when they are in the zone
8. They are unable to regulate their emotions
9. They have verbal outburst
10. They have social anxiety
11. They are deeply intuitive
12. They think out of the box
13. They are impatient and fidgety
14. They are physically sensitive
15. They are disorganized
16. They need space to pace
17. They avoid tasks
18. They can’t remember simple tasks
19. They have many tasks going on at the same time
20. They are passionate about everything the do

“12 Reasons Why You Should Love Having ADD”

1. You see what others don’t see, you see more
2. You’re a champion multi-tasker
3. You’re philosophically deeper than most people
4. You are an … artist, an actor, a writer, marketing expert, chef, Wall Street trader, a musician, or filmmaker
5. When you find something you love, you do it with passion
6. Change doesn’t scare you
7. You’re an out-of-the-box thinker
8. Your awesome sense of humor keeps you optimistic
9. You are resilient
10. You work great under pressure
11. You have a photographic memory
12. You are compassionate empathetic, and totally lovable

Who said it’s so terrible to have ADD?

Isn’t it time to start loving your special gifts? Admit it, you’re fabulous!

Thank you June for your words of wisdom!

So you were wondering who were and are some of these people whom had/have ADD/ADHD? Here is a list of some you might know something about.

Socrates, Orville and Wilbur Wright, Steven Spielberg, Henry David Thoreau, Edgar Allen Poe, Nolan Ryan, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Whoopi Goldberg, Ernest Hemingway, Dustin Hoffman, Abraham Lincoln, Galileo, William Randolph Hearst, George Bernard Shaw, Ann Bancroft, Nostradamus, John D. Rockafeller, Napoleon, General George Patton, Pablo Picasso, Babe Ruth, Harry Belafonte, George Burns, Andrew Carnegie, Salvador Dali, Dwight D. Eisenhower, William Butler Yeats, Prince Charles, Louis Carroll, Eleanor Roosevelt, Louis Pasteur, Terry Bradshaw, Richard Branson, Glenn Beck, Jim Carrey, Ryan Gosling, Woody Harrelson, Paris Hilton, Adam Levine, Howie Mandel, Ty Pennington, Michael Phelps, Pete Rose, Michele Rodriguez, Will Smith, Justin Timeberlake, Robin Williams, Emma Watson, Bill Gates, Eva Longoria, Steven Tyler, Bill Cosby, Michael Jordan, John Lennon, Liv Tyler, Jack Nicholson, Leonardo da Vinci, Henry Ford, Walt Disney, Woodrow Wilson, John F. Kennedy, Alexander Graham  Bell, Thomas Edison, Magic Johnson, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, Steve McQueen, Alfred Hitchcock, Babe Ruth, Louis Pasteur, and me.

The last four links are to previous article on ADD/ADHD posted on the Blog site.

Links:

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/20-things-remember-you-love-person-with-add.html

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/featured/12-reasons-why-you-should-love-having-add.html

http://kisbyto.blogspot.com/2011/03/dreading-report-card-day.html

http://kisbyto.blogspot.com/2011/09/attention-deficit-hyperactivity.html

http://kisbyto.blogspot.com/2012/09/joys-of-living-with-adhd.html

http://kisbyto.blogspot.com/2012/10/adhd-awareness-week.html

ADHD Awareness Week

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By Terry Orr

(ADDer)

Embracing and finding your unique and special niche in life with ADHD is life changing and special moments that you will never forget.  Shedding that anchor of others ‘idea what is normal’ and learning what is normal for you.  My moment was sitting in Ann Marie’s office (shrink) – imagine fireworks, laser light show, orgasmic and feeling like you have just lost a ton of weight off your shoulders.  Yep!  That was my moment.  Now, let’s work together to help you and others fine their moment.

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Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is -

• The many faces of ADHD - reflects the growing awareness of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, a neurological disorder that is not confined to any one age group or ethnicity. [adhdawarenessweek]
• Ruth Hughes, CEO of CHADD (Children & Adults with ADHD) referred to current research, saying that “ADHD has many faces.  It affects people of all ethnic backgrounds and all socioeconomic classes and is most often an inherited disorder.  Families can often identify ADHD symptoms in several generations.  Other environmental factors include premature birth, prenatal exposure to toxins such as smoking, drugs or alcohol, and other traumas to the brain.”

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ADHD Awareness Week site provides a wealth of excellent information on this subject and The Many Faces of ADHD Fact Sheets you can download and print – here are some of the titles available:

• ADHD in Teens
• ADHD in Women
• ADHD in Adults
• Parenting Children with ADHD
• Prevalence of ADHD in US

Also available is 7 Facts you Need to Know about ADHD:

1. ADHD is Real;
2. ADHD is a Common Non-Discriminatory Disorder;
3. Diagnosing ADHD is a Complex Process;
4. Other Mental Health Conditions Frequently Co-Occur with ADHD;
5. ADHD is Not Benign;
6. ADHD is Nobody’s Fault; and
7. ADHD Treatment is Multi-Faceted.

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We are leaning more factual, concrete information regarding ADD/ADHD every day and the more information being shared around the world is helping all of us to better understand, harness this special gift and focus on what is really important in our lives.  One of those is using my smartphone to remind me what and or where I need to be or doing.  Writing down notes from conversations with others to assessment in remembering where, what, when and any actions the they or I need to take.  Oh, and no – I don’t remember to do that all the time – but making progress in doing that more often.

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References and Links:

• http://www.adhdawarenessweek.org/many-faces-of-adhd/
• http://www.adhdawarenessweek.org/content/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/ADHDAwareness_2011_FactPosters.pdf
• http://connect.additudemag.com/blogs/post/adhd_awareness_week/

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National Disability Employment Awareness Month

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By Terry Orr

Held each October, National Disability Employment Awareness Month (NDEAM) is a national campaign that raises awareness about disability employment issues and celebrates the many and varied contributions of America's workers with disabilities. This year's theme is "A Strong Workforce is an Inclusive Workforce: What Can YOU Do?"

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During nearly five plus decades of working, I have worked with many people disabilities and to the person – they all excelled in the workplace. 

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The AbilityOne Program is the largest single source of employment for people who are blind or have significant disabilities in the United States, providing employment opportunities to more than 50,000 people. More than 600 participating, community-based nonprofit agencies (NPAs) train and employ these individuals with disabilities nationwide. But there are hundreds of thousands of Americans who are blind or have other significant disabilities that are still waiting for their chance to work. That’s why building awareness of the Program during NDEAM and throughout the year is so crucial to its success.

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References and Links:

http://www.dol.gov/odep/

http://www.consultspringboard.com/2012/ndeam-what-can-you-do/

http://www.nablement.com/2012/08/national-disability-employment-awareness-month-moving-beyond-the-tagline/

http://blog.capabilitiesinc.biz/?p=863

http://www.abilityone.gov/media_room/ndeam.html

Joys of living with ADHD

Accentuating the Positive

By Terry Orr

(ADD/ADHD-er)

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Multi-tasking at its best, once you learn how to harness the power of Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)/ Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) – I have rarely considered this a negative in my life (I see the glass half full).  In fact, just the opposite – because most folks simply are unable to do what ADD/ADHD folks can do.  So let’s take closer look into these special abilities.

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Last September we covered ADHD from a clinical and non-clinical perspective:

• Symptoms;
• Signs and Test;
• Treatment;
• Medications;
• Behavior Therapy; and
• Some well-known people who are ADD/ADHD.

10 Most Positive Things about ADHD (by Bryan L. Hutchinson). In my research for this article I was thrilled to find Bryan's Web/Blog site (www.adderworld.com) “Positive Thinking of ADHD” chucked full of good information on ADD/ADHD.  A summary of these ten are provided below, you can download the complete package at Bryan's site:

• Passion: Passion is energy, it is enthusiasm and it is intuitiveness.  Passion is life, it is ever constant.
• Creativity: Creativity is found in all people, not just those of us with ADHD; however, it does seem that people with ADHD have a way of thinking which makes what we create stand out as unique and distinctive.
• Dynamic: I believe people with ADHD are dynamic by nature. Dynamic people vibrate with energy and exude a kind of poise, which is too often misinterpreted.
• Resilient: We have had to be in order to keep on, keeping on!
• Playful: One of our most charming qualities is our playfulness.
• Entertaining: I personally believe that most all entertainers are ADDers! We are natural born entertainers.  It’s not an art form for us, it’s a way of life.
• Overachiever: One of our most underrated, least talked about traits is our desire to achieve, to do well and live a successful life.  Too many think we live by an excuse for our behavior and are unwilling to strive. The fact is: we are constantly striving!
• Imagination: If there is one thing I love about my ADHD mind above all others, it is my vivid imagination. When I dream it is like watching a movie in my head, with the intricate sounds, vibrant colors and ever so subtle movements.
• Hyper-Focus: I like to think of my hyper focus as my personal super power, which gives me tremendous advantages when I have it under my control.
• Positivity: Is a trait of ADHD?  Perhaps not officially.  It is for me, finally! {This has been for me as long as I can remember}

Bryan also has published three books (which I purchased over the weekend and downloaded on my iPad):

• One Boy's Struggle: A Memoir: Surviving Life with Undiagnosed ADD;
• The Brilliant Reality of ADHD; and
• Adult ADHD Can Be Sexy!

And has a fourth book in the works, “10 Things I Hate about ADHD”.

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In our recent post Positive Thinking (link) is an update to last year’s very successful article (link) on that same topic we shared information on the importance of being positive in every part of your life.   These are a nice Segway into - 

The Positive Characteristics of ADD / ADHD

People with ADD / ADHD also have many positive traits that are directly tied to their active, impulsive minds:

• Creativity – People with ADD excel at thinking outside of the box, brainstorming, and finding creative solutions to problems. Because of their flexible way of thinking about things, they tend to be more open-minded, independent, and ready to improvise.
• Enthusiasm and spontaneity – People with ADD are free spirits with lively minds—qualities that makes for good company and engrossing conversation. Their enthusiasm and spontaneous approach to life can be infectious.
• A quick mind - People with ADD have the ability to think on their feet, quickly absorb new information (as long as it’s interesting), and multitask with ease. Their rapid-fire minds thrive on stimulation. They adapt well to change and are great in a crisis.
• High energy level – People with ADD have loads of energy. When their attention is captured by something that interests them, they can have virtually unlimited stamina and drive.

Famous People with ADHD

Bill Cosby	Jim Carey	Whoopi Goldberg
Will Smith	Paris Hilton	Vincent Van Gogh
Orville & Wilber Wright	Benjamin Franklin	Thomas Edison
Abraham Lincoln	John F. Kennedy (father and son both)	Walt Disney
Samuel Clemens	Emily Dickenson	Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Positive Characteristics of People with Attention Deficit Disorder:

Ability to find alternate paths to overcome obstacles; Able to take on large situations; Adaptive/collaborative; Adventurous, courageous, lives outside of boundaries; Always finding alternate routes to any given location; Always willing to help others; Ambitious – you want to be everything when “you grow up”; Artistic; Attractive personality – magnetic due to high energy; Being able to see the big picture; Being able to see the patterns in the chaos; Being intuitive towards others’ difficulties; Broad focus – can see more, notice things more; Can create order from chaos; Can do many projects at once; Can make people feel they are heard; Can see the big picture; Can talk about several things at one time; Can think on my feet; Career variety; Centre of attention; Comfortable talking in front of groups; Comfortable with change and chaos; Compassion for others and for themselves; Conceptualizes well; Confidence; Constantly evolving; Courageous; Creates connections easily; Creative; Creative writing; Creative – musical, artistic, “dramatic”; Down to Earth; Good in a crisis; Good at customer relations; Dedicated; Detail-oriented; Determined to gain more control; Eager to make friends; Eager to try new things; Empathetic, sensitive; Energetic; Entrepreneurial; Excellent organizers using journals and reminders (notes etc.); Flexible – changes as the situation requires; Fun guy to be around; Goal-oriented; Good at conceptualizing; Good at motivating self and others; Good at multitasking; Good at problem solving; Good at public speaking; Good at understanding others/mind reading – empathetic; Good conversationalist; Good delegator and good at organizing others; Good in emergency situations; Good listener; Good looking and aware of it; Good people skills; Good self-esteem, energetic; Great brain-stormer; Great multi-tasker; Great self-company; Great sense of humor; Great storyteller; Great with kids (central figure around kids); Hands-on workers; Hard worker; Has friendly relations with their family; Has the gift of gab; Helpful; Helps others who are also in trouble; High energy – go, go, go; Humor, very healthy, quick picking up ideas; Hyper focus !!; Hypersensitive – very empathetic and good at non-verbal communications; Idea generator; Imaginative; Impulsive (in a good way) not afraid to act; Initiators; Intelligent; Intuitive; It’s ok to not finish everything; Learning as much as I can to help children and others with ADHD; Less sleep is good (midnight to 6 am); Like to talk a lot; Likes learning new things; Look at multidimensional sides to a situation; Lots of interests; Loves to cook and be creative; Magnetic; Master idea generator; Mentoring others/helpful; Mentoring people with low self-esteem; Modesty; Move on fast – never hold a grudge; Multitasks well; Never bored and rarely boring; Never intimidated to try new things; Non-linear, multi-dimensional/edge of chaos; Not afraid to speak mind; Not contained by boundaries; On stage and ready; Optimistic; Outgoing; Passionate; Persistent; Philosophical; Holistic thinking; Playful; Pragmatic; Problem solver; Profound; Quick thinking; Quick witted; Relates to people easily; Resistant; Resourceful; Saves money in the short term by forgetting to file tax returns; See and remember details – recount them later; Sees the big picture; Socially adaptive and flexible; Spontaneous; Stabilizer during difficult situations; Stable; Successful; Takes initiative; Tenacious; Theoretical; Think outside the box; Thinks two meters ahead of the world; Thinks big, dreams big; Thorough; Tolerant; Trusting, Unconventional; Unlimited energy; Unorthodox; Versatile; Very creative, able to generate a lot of ideas; Very hard working to compensate – workaholic; Very intuitive; Very resourceful; Very successful; Visionary; Visual learner; Willing to explore; Willing to take risks; Willingness to help others; Witty; Won’t tolerate boredom; Works well under pressure; and Worldly.

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Whew!  That’s quite a list of Positive Characteristics and surprisingly is spot on for me in all but four.  How many of them accurately depict your characteristics?

References and Links:

• http://adhdandmore.blogspot.com/2009/02/positive-characteristics-of-add-adhd.html
• www.adderworld.com
• http://web4health.info/en/answers/adhd-positive-aspects.htm
• http://suite101.com/article/positive-aspects-of-adhd-and-add-a6201
• http://www.realage.com/managing-adult-adhd/using-the-benefits-of-adhd-to-your-advantage